It's been such a long time since I've blogged, I think I'll try to make this a daily thing...not that anyone reads this, but I like to think of it as my journal. I think I'll probably try to focus on one topic each day and see where that takes me.....
Today wasn't such a horrible day...as I told my friend Tim, whom I was chatting with today, I feel as though I'm in some sort of funk. It's not that I'm depressed or anything I just feel like there's nothing really left to do at home and so I want to go back to school, but I really don't feel like starting classes quite yet. I think some of this might also have to do with new developments with one of my friend's relationship and yeah. To be frank, I'm not too fond of the idea...I love both of them dearly, and the woman is going to be my roommate next year, but at one point I liked the man and so yeah, some crushes die hard. He is an incredible person, everything I look for in a relationship, but I am trying to remind myselt that if he isn't the one, then whoever God has for me is going to be pretty amazing because I have high expectations for him :]
Anyways...I think what this all boils down to today is the perfect mate. I feel like this is what I am being called to talk about today. Lets see....when presented with this question I think most people would go straight for physical characteristics, which the only "requirement" I have is that I really like a man who is taller than I. I am 5'10.5'' so this is sometimes a challenge, but that is what I prefer. I am also a sucker for broad shoulders haha...I think this is because a man who is tall and has broad shoulders leads me to believe that he will be able to protect me...and when he holds me then I feel safe. Those are obviously not the only things I am attracted to...a chiseled jaw, kind eyes, somewhat mischevious grin, etc...but I can't say that I have a "type".
Moving on to more inportant things...I think that women over-use the phrase, "I like a guy with a good personality"...sure that's important...but I think there are other things worth mentioning. I think strong morals are an important thing, especially having self control and respect for himself. Self control in all matters of life, such as in situations that may result in a fight, with food or alcohol, and also when it comes to being physical with one another. This ties into respect for himself. I respect people who respect themselves, and if a man cannot respect himself enough not to control his desires then I am simply not interested. I also appreciate a sense of humor...I am extremely sarcastic at times, and I need someone who can handle that. I really like someone who is also able to be without me...not that he wouldn't want to be with me all the time, but it isn't a necessity. Being able to talk with people at a party I brought him to while I'm in the bathroom is a really big thing too. I really dislike it when it there is a couple and one of the two cannot mingle without the other.
One of the biggest things that totally gets me hooked on a guy is watching him interact with children. If a guy likes kids and is able to play with children that he doesn't know. I just love it when a guy I like is able to get on the floor and play with a one year old, or read a book to a 3 year old. It shows you what kind of a father he will be. One other way to see how you and your future children will be treated is by seeing how he treats his mother and sisters and animals. If a man loves his mother and is able to respect his sister then you know he is going to be alright. And if a man is kind to animals then that is a good sign. My mother dated a man once who was fine to his mother and sister, but when his puppy peed on the floor, he drop kicked it off of the front step. NOT a good sign.
And of course, a man of faith is the most important thing. A man must love God above everything, above me. If God is not the center of a relationship, there is no way for a couple to give anything to one another. We receive love from the Lord and then we can give that love away...when we don't receive anything, it is impossible for us to give
I think that's all for now...goodnight!
